what's best for them? It's their life and it's their journey. I used to have a mantra that I would say to myself when I first started working to break this habit. It was: "It's perfect for them." I used this mantra as a reminder to myself that whatever was happening and however it felt to me, I could trust that it was perfect for whoever it was about.
Just because someone doesn't do what I believe would support their forward movement the most, doesn't mean that I am right! What looks like "stuckness" to me might be just what the person needs to heal something inside of themselves. How do I know that it's not perfectly aligned for them? Who am I to question their journey or their choices?
Who am I to question what is?
One of my spiritual teachers at the Toltec Center was inspired to write a beautiful song while on retreat recently. The chorus line to the song is:
"Choose as love what is." (Raven Smith)
I think this is my new mantra for Adventures Of A Year To Love...
I think oftentimes a bit of friendly advice or caution from someone with a bit more experience or insight can be very helpful and should be offered in love and compasion. Perhaps the discomfort comes when we become attached to the outcome. It can be offered as a gift and is no longer ours but theirs no matter what they do with it.. Jon C.
ReplyDeleteI agree that it's my attachment to the outcome that hooks me; thanks for the reminder, my friend. Love to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Cecilia,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder.
Whenever I attempt to communicate with another person I always check in with myself first, to make sure that my intentions are clean. In other words; it's not so much about what I do but more about the thought behind the action; its either fear or love. Fear projects and love extends. Real Love is letting go of fear. This creates a perfect space for me to be truly helpful.
Love Nige